Sorry that things are so difficult for you lately. Time to let go for a while and concentrate on yourself. We all have learned one thing - you could lose your mind trying to figure these guys out.
I did finally reach the point during H's crisis when I decided there was nothing I could do but do for myself and leave H to himself. Either that or go insane. It was all one huge waiting game. Not what you want to hear, I know.
But honestly, I never believed that we could go from the dismal place we were, to where we are now. It's not perfect but it's more than I believed possible.
Do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself.
