Thanks Raindeer....we've seen one another through some tough times the last couple of years.
In4Ride.....Thanks for the laugh:
Quote: Watching the late show = I don't know WTF I'm doing and I don't want to think about it right now, but please don't give up on me yet.
However, I have no doubt that H has given up.
A couple things came to light over the weekend. Friday night I noticed that H had removed a box and a shelving unit from our bedroom. I did ask him about it and he told me he had moved them out to his trailer. The only thing I said to him after that was that if he moved another thing out then I expected him to move it all.....I could not survive this piece-by-piece moving out.
The other issue surfaced on Sunday as H and I were headed to go to church with MIL for her birthday. We had over an hour ride there and H literally snarled at me if I even spoke. About halfway there I finally told him I was tired of the silent-treatment and wanted to know what I did wrong. Apparantly the night before H had given S15 2 options on going with us to church with MIL and I gave son a third option of not going since son had homework and 2 functions he needed to attend. S15 chose to stay home and do homework and attend his events.
Yes, it was MIL's BD, and yes, I am the one who organized it, but never before has H insisted the kids go with us, so I never dreamed he wanted son to go that badly. Of course it is all my fault son didn't go, and none of the blame lies with H since he did not make it clear to son that it was important. (I still don't have a clue why all of a sudden MIL's birthday is a life or death matter.) It was sure a long ride home afterwards.
Then, to top things off, I told H on Sunday that my mom's birthday was in 2 weeks and most of my siblings would be back and we were planning on going to church with her and then out for brunch. H sprung it on me last night that he was leaving on a trip early that Sunday morning and would not me coming. Of course he could not see any reason why I would be even the slightest bit upset that he wouldn't be there.
To tell you the truth, normally I wouldn't be upset, but after the huge issue he made over his mother's BD, it just ticked me off. So, I have already talked to S15 and D22 (who is at college) and they will both go with me. I am sure I will enjoy much more without H there anyhow.
For now, I have given up on this M. I am sick and tired of the control issues, and the put-downs and just the jerk H has become. I am fairly sure that the only reason H is sticking around is to try to sway S15 to thinking he is all of a sudden this wonderful, caring, concerned dad, and to hopefully have S15 chose to live with him. (Guess what, that will NEVER happen!!!).
I truely wish that H had never moved back home last Aug. I was ready for him to be gone and am ready for him to leave now. (at least I think so )
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