I agree with you on the whole separation thing. H has to do what HE feels must be done, and do it in his own time. The tension being gone is absolutely wonderful and it makes interactions so much more natural.
I was in the garden when H left this morning so I did not see him before he left. I had 3 kids home for lunch, so I just fixed things as normal. I wasn't sure if H would be here or not, but there was no way I was calling to ask. I am really trying to give him space and let him call the shots. Well, about 15 before or normal lunch time H called. He started to say something about lunch until D18 picked up the phone. Since I knew she was on the other line, I told H I was fixing goulash and it would be ready in about 10 min. H then spoke briefly to D18, she hung up, then H said he would be home shortly.....and he was.
D18 is the only one of the kids we have actually told about the separation and she is really confused about why H is still here. I just told her I wasn't asking questions, I was just taking things one day at a time.
I honestly do feel that H will be moving out, but at his own pace. Although he has asked to stay here until after Friday, H still has his suitcase in the bedroom and keeps his dirty clothes there and his shaving kit. I helped him move his bed to his trailer and we have talked about which tv to take and which comforter. We have 3 large tvs in the house, but H asked to take the small one in our bedroom. H has not come right out and said it, but I know he does not want to disrupt the house by taking stuff out that we would miss. He is also mindful of what all this is costing.
