This is the best time to db. The tension is gone, H is calm, and you're interacting. Now's the time to show him the woman he married all over again. It helps to think of it as back when you we first dating - how did you act then to get a guy interested? You were on your best dbing behavior. You'll never have a better opportunity than right now.
After my H made his decision to move out was when we started to reconnect again. I had to listen to all his talk about moving out, making changes in his apartment, what stuff he was going to take from the house - and it was very difficult not to react when I just wanted to throw up. But, you have to be as upbeat, considerate, and friendly as you can possibly be. Becoming best friends at this stage is the key.
But I think it was the fact that everything was so pleasant and I was dbing my a$$ off, as we say, that made him rethink his decision. I didn't know whether I was fighting a losing battle or not, but I will never regret it because I ended up becoming the person I used to be, and that H fell in love with the first time.
Your H is hanging around, he obviously still cares for you and still likes you. You just have to make him feel comfortable still doing that, making it more comfortable than being away from you. No pressure, no talks - it's all up to him now. Just go with the flow. I think it's very interesting that he wanted you to see his place, and that you're opinion still counts with him. Keep dropping the rope and let him control things. Start thinking about some more 180's. It was good that you let him bring up the seeing the trailer - that's the way to handle it. He sounds a bit like my H - he'll eventually tell you almost everything if you just let him do it at his own speed.
Despite the separation, you're still in a good place to make progress.
