I understand how hard it is for you now. I have experienced it for one day. It was terrible.
But I am sure your kids are supportig you. Soon or later your H will miss you and reconsider the whole situation. By then he will be more committed to work on your M.
I have a couple friends. The W left the H and took the kids with her. She is a dentist and can afford to buy another new house. After 4 years of S and experienced depression, she finally realized that she also contributed to the problem in their M. So they sold their two previous houses and bought a new one and moved in together again as a family. They are both very committed to work on their M now. She gave me advice last year. She said that my W will also wake up once she has tried to live alone. I hope your H will also realize how much he misses what you do for the family. He probably takes them for granted. Your kids will provide you with moral support. They will comfort you. Try to live a happy life for now even without your H.
My A told me last time that you can draft a asset settlement agreement even in a S. You just don't enforce it until officially D. There still hope. But don't raise your expectation. I'll pray for you. Hugs to you.
