But, H asked for a D last night and even had the paperwork in the car. They were the papers he had had drawn up last Aug. He couldn't give me updated ones because his L is out of town until next week.
We had a long drawn out talk about how to split things which of course we don't see eye to eye on.
H has been planning this for a long time and pretty much has his ducks in a row on how things will work out. However, he could have picked a little bit better timing seeing as how we move D18 to Notre Dame in two weeks and S14 and I start school in a little over 2 weeks. Since H has been planning this for so long, he could have at least had the decency to give me the summer to get my act together.
After we had had a major talk, I told H I needed his business financial records, so at 11:30 last night we went to his office and he made me copies. We then went home and talked in the car some more. D18 had come home from a vacation while we were at the office. I went upstairs to dry my eyes a little, but H went to D18 and told her what "we" were doing. I could not believe that something this major we wouldn't have told her together. Now, I have no idea how the other kids will be told.
The only bright spot in the whole evening was when I mentioned a seperation instead of a D. H seemed to jump on that and even told D18 that he would check that out today.
I did ask H to move out although last night he did sleep in the basement. I noticed this morning that when he left he had taken his suitcase and the newspaper (I am assuming to look for a place to live).
