In4 Ride..... The only time I have asked H to share his plans is when it involves me getting rooms ready for company or something with the kids. I absolutly HATE the not knowing what is going on in H's life, but I, for the most part, dropped that ball long ago.

I really don't know much about the P/A type of person, but I do know that H is VERY controlling and I have come to realize just how many areas of our lives he tries to control. It is even to the point that his underwear has to be folded just so (in fact, H asked me the other day who had folded his underwear because it wasn't done the "right" way).

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I often think my H is deaf also. I think these guys live in their heads so much they tune everything out. It's also possible your H is like mine in that he needs a looonnnggg time to process.

When we were in C a couple of years ago the C told me that H did indeed take a loooong time to process things, and would evaluate everything from every angle before coming to a decision. I understood that then, and still do, but 30 months is an extremely long time to keep me in limbo. However, that can also work in my favor. H had D papers drawn us last July and has still not gotten around to having them served.

H actually made it home on time for supper tonight and was even in the same room as me for most of the evening......and even talking a little for a change. That was sure a nice surprise!

One thing that I have noticed the past few weeks is that H is asking me questions about where I have been or what package I received, or even what meetings I have to attend. That is a change! It is almost as if H is suspicious of me.

In all honestly my life is an open book and most all of my activities on written on the calendar (although some are in code ) Is it my fault that a couple of girl friends I have made through teaching actually go by names that are normally guy names, and I don't hestitate to bring their names up in conversations?? Or that a guy friend's computer crashed and he called here at a time that H was not supposed to be home to get my email address (and H answered the phone and took a message)???

Life feels like a game....and I plan on winning!!!

Wishing