I was ready to let go my W and start a new life. Looking at post by Kartom in Pinkcat's thread, he quoted Dr James Dobson about reestablishing respect. Dr Dobson suggested that I have to open the cage and let the involved Spouse (my W) to decide on her own destiny. Then the WAW may reconsider her options. My W is free to choose. Maybe my W feel trapped by me and our M. When I let her choose on her own, she found out on her own that the om may not be the ideal partner afterall.
I hope your H is willing to work on your M. The book "Not just friend" is S.Glass is very good. It is very helpful if your H is willing to read.
