Kelli....Thanks for stopping by. I feel like we went through a lot of bad stuff together and do wonder about you. Since you don't post on your own thread anymore I am assuming that you are doing OK?
Raindeer.....Hopefully you have hit the bottom of the rollercoaster (or rather W has splatted on the bottom and will be able to work her way up). Things really looked bad for you there, but that was also the time that you totally dropped the rope. Maybe that is what W needed???
In4Ride...I know our sitches are different but in a way they feel a lot alike. Our H's seem almost content with the status quo, but I am NOT. I don't know how to drop the rope anymore and still live in the same house.
At times I wonder if H is totally deaf...but,I agree with you that a lack of response from H probably means that he doesn't know the answer....but H has not been able to decide for 2 1/2 years now. There has to be an end someplace.
A year and a half ago, when I found out about H's 2 1/2 year A, H suggested he move out, and I told him "no". I wish so much that I would have had a firmer grasp on DBing and would have let him go, but that was then and this is now.
H did talk to me a little bit tonight about where he was today and when BIL is coming in and also what the schedule will be for the next week or so.
There is a pattern here that I don't know how to break. I am trying to not question H or put any pressure on him, but when it gets to a point that I am going to explode I say something to H......and then he usually does make some effort ease my frustrations. Then, I feel like I have forced him to do something, but which, in a normal M, would just be a natural thing to do.
I usually say something once to H, and then let it drop and look to see what happens. It is just that I have been at this for so long that I am just plain tired of it.
