I think your H's response is a good sign. He sounds as if he's tentatively moving towards you. If he were not interested at all, the celibacy comment would have sent him running in the other direction. Is he trying to tell you he needs to take it reeeaaall slowly? You know he might be very insecure and/or nervous after all this time.
I think it's very interesting that he came home in a good mood after that comment, especially when he was obviously in a bad mood before that. Could the intimacy thing be a control issue for him?
I certainly know where you're coming from, it's been more than 8 mos celibate for me and not very often before that either. My H seems perfectly content to go on like this forever. I just try to avoid thinking about it because like you, that one issue tends to really depress me and piss me off. My friends keep asking how long I'm going to put up with it. Who knows!
