I am not sure what moves to make next either. I continue to try to be supportive of H and to validate his feelings.
One point we do get stuck on is the trust issue. At one point in our 5 minute R talk awhile back, H made the comment that he tells me where he is going on his business trips and I said something to the effect that I also knew what cities he was at when he met up with OW, but a lot of good that did since he failed to tell me who he was with. I know I told H that I just plain don't trust him.
That is a tough pill for H to swallow since H considers his word to be his honor.
Anyhow, H left Monday on business and I have talked to him several times. The phone conversations seemed to go well until any mention was brought up about where he was at or what businesses he saw that day. Mostly I ask who he saw just out of curiousity in how his business is doing.
But, I am finding if I ask where he is at, H gets really defensive and one time even asked why I wanted to know. I told him I was just trying to get a feel of how his day went and whether he had finished up with a company and moved on or whether he had to spend another day with them.
H did call last night and said he was going to be home earlier today than he had planned. We have to pick S14 up from a swim camp tomorrow and instead of leaving at 4am, H wanted to know if it would be ok if we left this evening and spent the night in a motel. (Normally I would be thrilled with that suggestion, but since H has not touched me in 4 months, I forsee it as being a rather uncomfortable situation). Not to mention 5 hours each way in the car.
It may sound strange but I am kind of scared to be alone with H. I almost feel like he wants to talk but hasn't quite figured out how to do so.
Not to mention 5 hours each way in the car.