Since our 5 minute R talk last month I have noticed a definite change in H and for the life of me I can't figure out what is going on. My main point in the R talk was that things could not keep on like they were....it was not good for either H or I and it was not the type of M that I wanted our kids to think was OK.
Since then, H has seemed to be more open with me and even initiates conversations more often or shares tidbits of info. H has also started letting me know when he is leaving the place (i.e. work, pick up a part, haircut....) rather than seeming to try to sneak out of the house with no one seeing him. There have even been several moments of shared laughter where you can see the twinkle in his eye.(That part is wonderful).
On the other hand, H is also finishing up many of the little projects he said he wanted done before he moves out. So, I have a nagging feeling that maybe he has made the decision to D and wants out on a friendly note. Who knows?????
H just left on a 4 day business trip and did tell me where he was going to be each day and some of the companies he was going to visit. H actually volunteered that info which was a surprise to me. (Unfortunately, OW flew to one of those places and met up with H during their A). H was rather tense when he left this morning and I hoping that was just due to the stress of the job. I did wish him a good trip and waved good bye as he was leaving.
During our 5 minute R talk, I also told H that we needed to discuss US, but that I would wait until he was ready and he could initiate the talk. H knew my contract for next year was due, and that I had another job offer 800 miles away and I only had 2 weeks to make a decision. Well, that time came and went, so I went ahead and signed another year contract with the job I have. I didn't want to rock the boat too much by asking where our M is headed, but H knows that if we D that I plan on moving and he does not want me to move. In fact, H has said that he was doing all these projects around the house so that I would be comfortable here and want to stay. It is just frustrating!
It seems like progress (if that is what it is) is so incredibly slow, but when I compare the tension level of 2 1/2 years ago to now, there has been progress.
