In4Ride.....It has only been the last few months that H has done much to help around the house. But then I never expected much help when I was a stay-at-home mom for 20 years. However, for the past 2 years, H has usually done only the token help of removing plates from the table. For whatever reason, for the past few months H has actually been sticking around the kitchen until it is cleaned after meals, even on accassion washing the dishes if I'm on the phone or something. He has also been putting the clothes in the dryer and taking them out if I don't get to them right away. D18 and I were gone earlier this month for a few days, and when I came home H had sorted all the laundry and had done a bunch of it. That was a first in 25 years of M! I do enjoy the extra help (and companionship) and make sure I thank H for it.
Raindeer.....I try to be sensitive to H's needs and am realizing just how much "words of affirmation" mean to him. Last night I felt like I really let him down, but I didn't mean to. .... My wireless connection went out in a storm last week, and H has been trying for several nights to figure out what was wrong. He finally pinpointed to problem to a wiring connection and spent a couple of hours fixing that. In the meantime, D23 called and I hadn't talked to her for a month so I was on the phone with her for an hour or so. During that time, H fixed the wireless connection and put my laptop on the table close to me (I thing so I would see that I could internet on it). H then talked to D23 for awhile. Almost as soon as he hung up he asked me if I noticed he had fixed the wireless for me....it was said in a tone of disgust that I hadn't already acknowleded that it was fixed. I then made sure to thank him in a couple of different ways for taking so much time to help me out.
H met S14 and I at the doctors because they needed tetnus shots for a trip they are taking. As they were waiting for their shots, we started talking about blood and H asked if I was still donating blood (I gave for the first time in years last summer). When I told him no he wanted to know why. Since S14 was in on the conversation I couldn't tell him that the real reason I have not donated again is because you have to answer questions about your partner's sexual history over the past couple of years. I won't lie, but I hate telling a stranger that I don't know my H's sexual history for the past few years. It is just one more ramification of an A. Ugh!!
It was just H and I for both lunch and supper last night and I really wondered if H would have an excuse to not come home and eat. But, he was home on time for both meals and had an OK time. We will see what today brings....
