lostlove, I think you are right in your assumption that it is not me that is causing H to stay on the fence. It would be easier to understand this whole mess if I really knew what caused it (other than a full-blown MLC). H seemed to go into MLC when he retired from the Marines where, in his last assignment, he was in charge of everyone.
Even in counseling H has only ever come up with a couple minor things that he didn't care for about me. I try to read any small clues he gives so I can do things differently, but it is hard.
Raindeer, It is confusing when H is the nice guy, which he seems to be this afternoon. Today was my last day of school for the year, and H surprised me when I got home by calling to see if I wanted to go out for supper to celebrate. H then suggested a place that is MY favorite, but H really doesn't care for...I thought that was sweet. But, I told H I really preferred somewhere else tonight and he was happy with that.
Does anyone else have a spouse who continues to consciously do nice, considerate things for them, yet make no attempt at reconnecting? (I know H can be a jerk much of the time, but when he is like that, I am not sure he realizes what he is doing.)
