I think you just provided your own answer. Your W moves farther away each time you have an R talk! Whack, whack.
Actually, I think it's pretty positive that you and W are intimate, no matter how lame right now. Most women wouldn't if they are only into OM. She must be trying on some level. Are you giving her enough space?
Wow, with H gone this week I have all this evening time on the computer. Of course, I should be packing for vacation.