I have wondered if pride is an issue - I admit it is for me. Sometime soon I may just decide, 'nothing ventured, nothing gained.' But I need a little more courage than I have right now. I'm thinking that I may get some clues to H's thoughts in the next few weeks. Just a feeling.
I'm thinking however, that this is the same as not saying ILY. H already knows how I feel and would welcome him back into our room. I'm still convinced he has to make the decision on his own, maybe only because I need to know it's what he really wants, but also so he feels I'm not controlling the situation.