Quote: But this anger thing has me a little concerned. It's not directed at me these days, and it's probably not really that big a deal compared to most people, but it's certainly different than how H used to be, before MLC.
Great observation on your part! After I read The Four Agreements and took on agreement 2 (don't take things personally), I read another book on anger and figured this out.
I used to feel that anger directed toward me was a reflection of something I was doing or not doing, rather than a projection of how the other person was feeling.
Until we know what to do with anger, we tend to take it out on others around us when we don't understand the source of it. In my own case, I was most unpleasantly surprised to discover that my anger was really directed inward, though I was projecting it out on to my family members and friends.
Do you think that this is what your H is doing? And I have to commend you for putting up an invisible shield to prevent you from taking those hits and reacting.
You rock!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey 