Reindeer – Just visited your thread earlier. I think when I finally figured out that my H’s and my LL’s were completely different, and I made a very conscious (but casual) effort to meet his, that’s when H’s attitude seemed to become more positive. And then it hit me after a few compliments, gifts, and cheerleading – I once did this all the time back in the “honeymoon phase” – when and why did I stop? I don’t really know, but doing it again made me feel good also. The amazed look on his face when I had the opportunity to tell him I thought he was more handsome now than when I married him, made me feel ashamed.
Wishing – We will be going up North to visit families on our vacation. I would like to do something more romantic but I haven’t visited my parents in almost 2 years and they are 80 now! Although I call them every week, it’s not the same. Also H’s family will be at their Lake house so we would spend half week at each place, with birthday party planned for BIL. Also, the end of the week would also be H’s birthday.
I’m toying with the idea of buying H a new wedding ring for his birthday, but I need to think about that a little bit more. H lost his about 2 years ago – I always claimed it was Freudian. Strangely enough H once agreed to wear a wedding ring while we were separated, but then he didn’t leave and subject never came up again.
But, at least on these visits I don’t think H can maintain separate beds. Even though every time we visit Lake, MIL puts us in the room with twin beds (even when we’re the only ones there), now it’s too much bother for her so we will stay in a hotel. Just my luck H will ask for a room with two beds!
Nitaf – Thanks. I must admit that it’s very easy to get complacent once things start to get better. We still have quite a ways to go but last night I found myself slipping into “old ways.” I even complained a little bit about some work stuff – a big no-no, and I’ve been talking just way too much.
PIB – I’m working on it – can’t work on it at home so it’s going slower than I’d hoped.
