Funny comment about the leg vs the mind. I read one on a post that said - "everything will be OK in the end. If it's not OK then it's not the end". So, I guess with you and I and our H's it's not the end.
I wonder what they do to help them vent and sort? This board is a tremendous help explaining what might be going on within the R. They have nothing explained to them so are they just "lost" or do they take "the easy way out" and just don't think about it? Crazy-making isn't it!
You should "pat yourself on the back" as I know how difficult it is not to tell them what you are feeling. I wonder if part of them not wanting to hear about "our feelings" might be they don't even want to think about theirs much less ours? If you are avoiding feeling then someone else having them must be even more overwhelming.
I think I'll call it a night and get some rest. I need it as I think I've confused myself.
