You're right - I do have a lot of positives but we always want more. I was just sitting here reading other threads and thinking I'm very thankful for a lot of the good things about H and our R. There is no OW, he's still at house, he is still pretty considerate (sometimes just like a dream husband!), and he does spend as much time with me as any husband does. In fact, except fo the physical R, everything else seems close to perfect.
I also remind myself that my PA H is not the type to ever actually apologize or say he's changed his mind. He uses very obscure truce triggers and we generally did not explicitly 'make up' after a tiff (we rarely had fights - have to avoid that conflict!). We just sort of moved on. So, it's very likely that he never will SAY he wants to work on the R.
The call late yesterday saying he is moving out of the room he's in does tell me he at least thinks about things. Obviously he was thinking about it all day and felt he needed to tell me (he had therapist appt and would be getting home late) sooner rather than later.
I am doing something to add a little mystery or whatever tonight. I have to go to a client's picnic this evening, and I've known about it for weeks, but haven't mentioned it. I thought I would just call later and say "I forgot to tell you I have to go to 'so-and so's picnic so I'll be home a little late, go ahead and eat dinner without me". Of course he will know this is a custom home builder and the picnic will likely have lots of male construction workers. So while I'm picnicking with the guys , he can do the final preparations for his parents visit tomorrow. I don't feel guilty - I spent the week cleaning while he was in Utah.
, he can do the final preparations for his parents visit tomorrow. I don't feel guilty - I spent the week cleaning while he was in Utah.