I really appreciate your response during your own challenges - read about your difficulties earlier but was too pessimistic about my own to be of much help. You're a real power db'er.
I've been keeping up the good front at home but it's difficult to see any progress. H NEVER talks about anything related to R, no future references, no past references, nothing. I'm really quite baffled now why he has even bothered to stay, and why he told friend he could use the apt this summer after it stayed empty for 3 mos.
I'm not even sure why I'm losing hope. I don't think there's been any real change in the situation except he's more distant again, less eye contact, less sharing, after a couple of weeks of what seemed the opposite. I haven't given up completely, but I've run out of 180's, there's a real lack of things or thoughts to validate, and there's no physical contact.
Who knows - maybe he's stressing about his parents coming the week after next, only 3 days after he returns from his Utah bike trip (leaving this Sat). I still don't know what sleeping arrangement he's going to come up with and maybe he doesn't either. I imagine he'll sleep on the couch rather than share a bed with me. His parents would never know the difference. I don't think that's it though because he's a great actor when his parents are around. Sometimes I think he only married me to please them. Yuck!
Your positive attitude is inspiring me to do better. Thanks bunches.
