Hey In4, don't give up. I figured this out myself today, when I got a WTF last night.
H and I (I thought) were reconnecting, and then last night, he says feelings haven't changed. WTF!
OK, at the advice of some really good people (thank you) I decided to meet him for lunch. He text'd me and said he couldn't make it, too busy, absolutely no way to have lunch together.
Instead of being angry, I DB'd. "Oh, I'm sorry. Tonight you will have all the stress relief you need." He texts back "I'm coming, I don't care."
Good DBing, it works every time. He got there and thanked me several times for the stress relief, hugs, etc. He almost was smiling before leaving me to head back to work.
What I'm trying to say is...Don't give up. Certainly not now. He is still at home, use it to your advantage! Keep going, do something for yourself. Don't do anything based on feelings of the moment. If it's important, it still will be tomorrow. Take your time, and validate him like crazy.
