Hi,

Looking to all experienced DB'ers for feedback. After feeling that I could really handle all of this BS, I'm back again on the downward leg of this ride. Seems H is back into the me, me, me, irritable and diconnected mode again (basic replay behavior). A couple of weeks ago I thought we were really starting to connect again but now we've gone backwards. I'm now thinking the progress and/or baby steps I saw were just my hopeful imagination. I can't even remember what I thought I saw now.

I would appreciate any info on experiences others have had - with MLC'ers going forward, then backwards. Can this be a hopeful sign that they are still working through their issues or is it all unfathomable. This has been going on 6 mos since the bomb. H hasn't left (yet) but we're in separate bedrooms. This past weekend I was thinking maybe I should just pack it in - I'm so totally confused as to why he has stayed if he's not going to put in more effort. I guess he probably just needs the garage space and doesn't want to leave the dogs. I continue to go my own way, not waiting around for him, and acting as if I'm pretty happy, but I'm losing faith.

I have been posting both here and on "BestFriends" thread under MLC since I started.