It's funny how they love to hear compliments but never give them isn't it. If you think he changed his mind about the surgery from you telling him how handsome he looked - maybe you need to give "more of the same". Is a "Words of Affirmation" guy?
I know what you mean about trying to figure out where they are in this mess. This MLC thing feels like a disease and you are trying to find just the cure so he will be normal again. I don't think it works that way but I keep looking for "just the right words" to say. Sometimes I think - hey, I can do this - and out "of the blue" he hears something that he's heard before but now he sees it as a reason to "run again". I hate this!
