I see that my last post last night must have gone into the ozone again. I can't even remember all that I said now.
The cosmetic surgery is a chin implant. He does have a 'weak' chin but he wears a short beard, and with his silver hair/beard, I think he looks very handsome. When the subject came up I was able to tell him so, and also that I think he is more handsome now than when I married him. I think he was very surprised by that. His interest in the surgery seems to have waned since then.
His replay antics have also subsided some in the past couple of months. It's why I thought he might be farther along in the MLC. But just last week he was talking about buying another bicycle, his 4th, so I don't know. He seems less angry also, but still sort of quick to show irritation over little things, something he didn't do before the MLC.
Even though he is a people-pleaser, when he really wants to do something there is no stopping him. That's why I feel good that he hasn't left yet, when he has had the opportunity and the apt has been empty for 3+ months. I think he thought I would take the decision out of his hands by throwing him out, so then he could say, "She threw me out but I don't blame her." I decided long ago he is totally on his own making these decisions, with no 'controlling' from me. The decision to let friend use the apt this summer was also totally his, with no input from me.
I also included in my post another long-winded story about my IL's but I'll save it for another time.
