I think the fact that your H is able to at least try to understand his feelings is really good. It should help you "down the line" when he's ready to deal with your R.
What kind of cosmetic surgery is he thinking about? What do you think he is looking for? Do you think he's just trying to look better or pretend that if he doesn't look older then he has stopped time?
I think a lot of my H MLC is about "things that he didn't do". He feels he has been giving his whole life (he is a people-pleaser) so hasn't spent a lot of time trying to do what he really wants instead of what he thinks everyone else wants from him. The only problem is he does this for everyone not just me (I'm sure more for me - so I get the most blame). However, even when I'm not in the picture he will still not be doing what HE wants until he finds "himself".
I thought when we got older that life would be quiter, easier and simpler - how wrong could I be!
