Grief and Gratitude, Grok - day by day

[grok]

Days

Holidays -
Thanksgiving is approaching and XW's parents came to town for a few weeks. The news was passed though D18 some weeks back.

I've been thinking I should have a separate talk, them and me. ... Set our connection anew, without XW between anymore, and not going through their grandchildren. This is MY home. They are welcome here but come to me directly. I'm not sure how I will handle Thanksgiving... as... well, see below.

The moment has arrived for killing the past and coming back to life

Birthdays -
S13 is now S14! *fireworks*

The big present was upgrading him from an 8 year old iPhone to a 16e. I stacked all the discounts and added him to my overarching plan.

Over the last week, D20, D18 and I had set up a small family party for just us this evening with cake and gifts.
later...
D20, "Can Grandma and Grandpa come over too?"
G, "Of course they can. They are always welcome."

And then, as I was out this evening, I received a message 30 minutes before I got home and the mini-party started at 8:30p

D20, "Dad.... Grandma invited mom over. I didn't know that was happening. She thought it would be nice for S14. Just wanted to make sure you knew."
G, "It will be nice for S14"

Hmmm... I'm split here. I'm a little irritated Grandma is making invitations without talking to me. At the same time, since it turned into more than just the four of us, it probably was good for S14.

XW, and her parents, could have done birthday things or plans any time all day. They did not. Nor make plans for such. Huh.

Anyway, I exhibited good cheer for all, teasing my young ones (dual wielding lighters for the candles...lol), taking pictures I will share later.

XW, 45 minutes later, after presents and a bite of cake, quietly, "I'm gonna get going now." and heads out saying bye to S14.

Grandma, "Where did XW go? Did she leave?"

Grandma and Grandpa left about 15 minutes later.

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Coming Back to Life - David Gilmour] (Live from the Luck and Strange Concerts)

Where were you when I was burned and broken
While the days slipped by from my window watching
Where were you when I was hurt and helpless
Because the things you say and the things you do surround me
While you were hanging yourself on someone else's words
Dying to believe in what you heard
I was staring straight into the shining sun

Lost in thought and lost in time
While the seeds of life and the seeds of change were planted
Outside the rain fell dark and slow
While I pondered on this dangerous but irresistible pastime
I took a heavenly ride through our silence
I knew the moment had arrived
For killing the past and coming back to life

I took a heavenly ride through our silence
I knew the waiting had begun
And headed straight..into the shining sun

(Quite literally written about his divorce and finding the woman he later married)