I can’t imagine anyone reads this But Michelle started sending out her emails again and that brought me back here.
Wild that I last wrote in September 2023 and I had no intention of being back. I’d also add I don’t have a need to be back. I’m what I would call happily divorced at this point. I still have no interest in my ex-wife sometimes it makes me sad when I don’t have the kids every day, but I’ve really grown my personal life where I have plenty to do and I’m still with the same girlfriend, I was with two years ago. We’ve done some incredible hiking, I’ve taken up mountain biking, I’m still snowboarding, and this past summer I took up wakeboarding with my kids. I love my girlfriend in that relationship has been really incredible.
If I could go back and talk to myself in the darkest of my days, I think I would just give myself a hug and say everything‘s gonna be OK. I tell myself that I had a nice smile and that I’d meet somebody because one of the weird things of going through years of trying times was that I never received any compliments and once my wife left and I was talking to other women I was shocked to find out a lot of really nice things that people saw on me.
I’d let myself know that the kids are gonna be OK and that they would get through it even though there would be pain I tell myself that I had more friends and family than I realized who cared deeply about me and would be there anytime I needed them. I’ve learned an incredible amount of these past 10 years and after having gone through it all, I’m very happy and I have a great life.
So if anyone does read this little blurb from the past and reads the rest of my story because they’re going through a challenging time I would just reiterate that everything’s gonna be OK and if you do get to the backside of this thing and are looking for resources I really liked the book Heartbreak by Ginnette Paris. It really helped me.
