V, I totally get it. I think. I thought I was doing better. Doing things for me, trying to make myself happy, maybe that’s not enough or maybe I’m not far enough along yet I don’t know. A year ago I don’t think I would have gone to that wedding at all so I was pretty proud of myself.
It's not about doing "better" or it about it being "enough". It's just layered and complicated. You should very much celebrate that wedding. One doesn't negate the other. It's okay to be proud of the work you have done AND understand there is more to do.
Originally Posted by bkerchik
I don’t know how I’m going to get around the birthday thing. Do I want to get him gift…not really. But the D’s have already been asking about it since it’s something we always do. A gift and dinner together. They still don’t know what’s going on.
That is your choice.. and often one I see here.. doing things for the kids. Your kids aren't young though. They might not know whats exactly going on... but i'm also sure they are aware of something.
I'm not sure protection from the truth is what they need. I am not saying that it wouldn't be hard and painful for them... but I can tell you that having parents who stayed together who weren't loving to each other is no picnic in the park.
People are always watching... even them. What do you think they see?
In all honesty though - this is your choice. Truly. My opinion...is just that... an opinion.
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