Hey Kevf, I know things are very hard on you emotionally. Mental Illness in our loved ones is very challenging to deal with. I think it's important to try not to buy the ticket to the rollercoaster ride your wife is currently on
Of course HRT can affect medication... but is she at a place where she can hear that now to discuss with a doctor?
My guess is that you have seen a mania episode before. So hopefully you know what needs to be done on your end to protect things.
I hope the board doesn't edit this... but have you done any support groups? I found NAMI invaluable to me when dealing with my former partner who suffers from a mental illness. I still grieve and mourn who she was before the illness took hold - but at the same time, I protect myself financially and emotionally. Sometimes I still buy the ticket... but it's less now.
I also understand that she chooses for the illness to control her life. Accepting that though - is a whole other practice.
Boundaries still apply here. Most of the DB principles still apply.
AND... spending some time understanding the mental illness and getting support from people who are/have gone through similar experiences can also be helpful. You need support too!
Just a suggestion
M(f): 43 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
