WAW to MLC XH bookends (it's complicated!)

[Unbeatab]

I ask because after several intense therapy sessions, it has been brought to light that I was raised by a covert narcissist.. and married one. EXH's brother is an overt narcissist, who emotionally abuses H (I've witnessed it, and it's heartbreaking!) and physically abused EXH as a child. So in saying don't look back, I mean how likely is a narcissist to truly going to want to change if they've found a fresh supply? How does this change the way you DB, if you decide to stand? I'm looking for advice from someone who has stood for one. The extra challenge is standing while working on changing your own narcissistic traits you've picked up... are you more likely to flub DBing? He stopped calling me at the end of August, so we're now at no contact... which means I have no idea what's going on with him. He's never really shown an interest in the boys, so the lack of communication with them is no surprise... if he did call them, it was to see how I was. They know to give him short answers when it comes to me. My mind is so much clearer now, and now I'm cycling through all the stages, but with my rose coloured glasses off. My compassion says wait it out, learn the skills I need to neutralize his power moves, in the meantime... and hold faith that he finds the strength to seek professional help. One positive is that everything I thought I knew about my/our past has shifted in perspective, and I have a lot of work to do on myself... so finding less and less time to worry about him.