Will order the DR when I can, hopefully next week.
She's definitely not on team Kevf1 at the moment, hasn't been since BD day, She's completely changed her attitude towards me. I obviously didn't help things in the 1st two weeks with sending her messages, apologizing, begging and pleading etc. Done other things I'm not proud of those 1st two weeks like messaging her mum, an old friend of hers and 1 of her work colleagues who I know. None was with ulterior motives though I know was still stupid. I messaged her mum (who she hasn't spoken to for 4 yrs) just to tell her we had separated so she didn't find out through gossip or Chinese whispers. (her mum had done nothing to me so out of respect I felt I owed her that, and even she said she hoped its a phase, she doesn't understand her daughters ways a lot of the time and she thanked me for all what I done for her daughter and more so her 4 grandkids). I messaged her work colleague just to ask him to look out for her at work as she can be stubborn and will work herself to exhaustion and specifically said I don't need to know anything about her. And I messaged her old friend to say I don't know why my wife stopped seeing her and to say I wasn't stopping her, in fact I encouraged her to meet up as I like some space to myself at times.
Not spoken to a lawyer as really no need to. We only rented our house so I just moved out as didn't need a 4 bed house to myself. And I have nothing else she can have. I left her with everything in the house, just took my stuff.
She's adamant in messages she had sent to my mother that there hasn't been, there currently isn't and neither does she want anybody else. She's to busy loving herself! But I also know my wife has never liked being alone long. She messaged me 2 weeks after splitting up with her ex. I turned her down and it was 2 years later before we got together.
I'm 100% committed to giving her space. In fact I currently have no choice anyway. I do believe this is probably not something I have control over anyway and she's probably never going to engage with me and I'm expecting the block to be permanent . Anything else will be a bonus. It all just seems very final at the moment!
She's always been on meds for her bipolar but obviously her HRT may be affecting that. She is nowhere near as abusive as she was for first few years of our relationship (and it was only once or maybe twice a year) but the night I refused to initially move out she was really nasty with some of the stuff she said about me to whomever she was speaking to on the phone, and personal belittling stuff!.
I have been a lurker here for about a week so have read through a lot of other posts but thank you for the material, much appreciated.
Last edited by DnJ; 09/10/2501:45 PM. Reason: Corrected typo.
