WAW to MLC XH bookends (it's complicated!)

[Thumas]

It sounds like you handled the call really well by keeping your tone steady and not falling into an icy or defensive attitude. Using your normal voice helped keep the conversation calm and neutral, which is important when dealing with someone who might be trying to gauge the situation or push buttons subtly. Not getting defensive about the "more importantly" question shows strength and emotional control, and it’s a positive step since it feels like he no longer doubts your well-being.

It’s understandable to feel unsure about being brief or not asking how he was, but it’s perfectly okay to maintain boundaries, especially if the dynamic has been tense or manipulative in the past. Sometimes keeping the interaction focused and short is a way to protect your peace. The fact that he’s still calling you and not the boys, combined with his overconfident tone, suggests he may be testing or trying to assert control—recognizing this as a "temperature check" rather than something more significant shows great insight.

On your day off, focusing on rest, gardening, and cooking is a wonderful way to nurture yourself and your family. Enjoying activities like trying new recipes and getting outdoors can really help maintain balance and positivity. It sounds like you’re doing a great job managing the situation with awareness and self-care, which is really important in navigating complex relationships.