Feeling hopeless

[grok]

Hey bkerchik,

I’d go with what DnJ says. He’s seen a lot come through here. Here’s my reaction…just now had time to write it. Colorado Springs today. Whew!

Do I still innocently go with my friend as planned?

Some questions so you can clarify the issue to yourself. …. What were your reasons for going in the first place? Was it anything to do with H?

Well they are having another one and I thought it would be a lot of fun to go with one of my good friends.

No? Then why does his going or not affect what you do? Go or not go because YOU want to, or not, with your friend.

Yes, I fully understand the internal emotional impact of

And I’m sure he’s going with OW

and thinking about how to react if the two of them are there.

Perhaps … A thought experiment… How would you react to some other man you knew showing up with his OW?

Or to paraphrase RobX, a past strong commenter here on the boards.

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You casually walk up and say, Hey H, Hey OW, good luck you two. You’re going to REALLY need it.. Then you walk away first and enjoy the event with your friend. No explanations.
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Worry about how to react, etc…, is H’s problem. Not yours. You have nothing to excuse or explain. H does. Let H face the truth and consequences himself. … not out of spite. Perhaps … Grace.

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Grace - U2

Grace
It's a name for a girl
It's also a thought that
Changed the world
…
She carries a pearl
In perfect condition
What once was hurt
What once was friction
What left a mark
No longer stings
…
Because grace makes beauty
Out of ugly things

Grace finds beauty
In everything

Grace finds goodness
In everything