WAW to MLC XH bookends (it's complicated!)

[Unbeatab]

Just reread this and for clarity sake again.... reconnecting after I left, not now.

[Unbeatab]

Called just now... sending a text to work as he called. Wanted to know if I knew what a charge on his card was for. He was going to text the question, but didn't want it to come across the wrong way. Asked how things are going, I told him good. He asked me how the store was doing, I said really well. He asked if we were getting out and doing stuff, I said of course. He said more importantly, are the boys getting out and doing stuff... I said that we're all good here. Long pause, and then he said OK, well, as you were. Bye.... I said OK, bye and hung up first.

How did I do, guys? I used my normal voice when I answered the questions, not my ice princess tone.

Should I have asked him how he was? It's weird being so short with him.

I didn't get defensive about the more importantly question... I guess he's not worried about my sanity anymore...lol. Still calling me instead of the boys, though. I hate how easy he can mask, especially with his overconfident tone, and try to get the upper hand. Much different approach from last call, no tail between his legs tone like last time.

Also, not spiraling into analyzing the call. Thanks to this board, I can see it for what it is... temperature check, and a different move in the dance.

Our only day off, so getting some rest... some gardening and cleaning, and some cooking. I love cooking, so trying new recipes, and making some ready to go meals for the week. I wasn't lying about the GAL'ing... we went out for milkshakes yesterday, trying to get walks in if the weather cooperates and we aren't too tired.

[DnJ]

Good Morning Un

You did well with the unexpected call. And you are correct, it’s a temp check by H. Just him checking in, seeing how/what you’re doing. H trying to keep you on the hook.

Good on you, not being on the shelf where he left you. Not sitting there pinning away over him.

I hate how easy he can mask, especially with his overconfident tone, and try to get the upper hand.

Yep. They certainly do that.

These hurt folks expend incredible energies into maintaining their fantasy, their mask. I’d bet H took quite a while to work up to calling you.

Should I have asked him how he was? It's weird being so short with him.

I think you did fine.

It’s not you being short with him, it’s you being succinct.

Kind and cordial.

Being friendly, but not friends. For your friends don’t treat you that way.

Our only day off, so getting some rest... some gardening and cleaning,and some cooking. I love cooking, so trying new recipes, and making some ready to go meals for the week. I wasn't lying about the GAL'ing... we went out for milkshakes yesterday, trying to get walks in if the weather cooperates and we aren't too tired.

Perfect!

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