I don't know if MWD still partners with the coaches that were listed before the website update. After our 1st BD, I did reach out and work with one for several weeks. I found it worthwhile for many sessions. It did get to a point where the DB coach seemed to drift away from DBing and MWDs approach so I actually pivoted to relying on my IC from that point forward. Perhaps you could email MWD or her assistant, Virginia I believe, to see if they might still connect you with those coaches if available. Or, it may be time to find an new IC. Have you told your IC that you don't feel the sessions are helping? It can be challenging to start over with a new one so I'd recommended having a candid discussion with the current IC to try and reset what you want to get out of the discussions and make your expectations clear. I hope that helps. Keep working on yourself - that's what's most in your ability to influence right now and it will serve you well in the long run, no matter how the relationship turns out.
Unfortunately, as time passes some posted information becomes out of date. Another example, Virginia, she retired a few years ago. I do realize there are names and phone numbers of past/retired DB contacts out there (Christy); I would like to clean that up a bit.
I agree with MrP. Have you mentioned to your IC how the sessions seem to have stagnated? This would likely bring up questions of what are hoping to gain from IC? Even if you don’t bring this up with your IC, the question remains. Once you answer, what you are looking to gain, you can decide your course.
A new IC may be in the cards, or even no IC. We do, or should, out grow IC methinks.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
Venting… just made copies of recent spending habits for my records. He just made a large payment on his super secret work credit card. No expense check even deposited this time. He has it, it came in the mail. This is craziness. I know I shouldn’t say anything, that I have records. But I so want to scream about it!
I understand how you feel. You want to scream so badly and confront him. The best thing you can do is make copies and document everything you can. Please be sure to put your copies and all documentation in a safe place where he can't find it. I found that by making a spreadsheet of all of the documentation helped me to keep things straight when I needed to present all of it to a lawyer.
Continue to come here to vent. This is the safest place to do so. If you need to scream, take a drive and go to a quiet place and scream as much as you need to. Dealing with these folks takes all of the patience that you have and then some. As they always say, dig deeper for patience.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
