Will a glimmer of hope be a start?

[PamCakes]

Therapy today: it was a sh*tshow and so was I. It's the rejection, guys. I've been rejected before. This hurts. I feel so dejected . He came home at 12:06p and left at 2:06p. I admit i lost my composure- he was to go to my little ones Beach party with us, but I drove to get her from the sitter without him.


He said yes, I love someone else. Not you. Acknowledged he wasn't there for me when my dad was ill and chose to respond to her doing stepfather instead. Said he didn't care. So cruel. He was so calm. No reactions at all. Just matter of fact. I want to let go. It's so hard.


He acknowledged to respect my boundaries of staying out of the bed at night, and said " I don't know why, it's a bed. It's a tool to sleep in". It's just a tool to him.
But in the past, the bed was our safe space. Our space to congregate and communicate. Just last month he said" we didn't talk anymore, you know I need communication".

Here's the kicker: the therapist said what he's doing is a result of never being allowed to say no. Therapist says he's decided to prioritize his independence over family and being emotionally supportive in the marriage. H says I can def see him all week, but the weekends are for him/OM and he wants to come and go as he pleases. He sees her more and more, and as they strengthen, I feel all hope is shattered.

Therapist said this is not a MLC, but selfish phase. It may last the rest of his life. He feels this is common in polyamory, Some partners just choose to invest in other relationships. So I said, because He's never practiced boundaries before. The only antidote is for him destroy all boundaries we had as a couple. Am I barking up the wrong tree with this DBing???????

I let him slip away, I took so much for granted