Why is it recommended to refrain from explaining the reality of lawyers/ divorce mediators? My H biggest complaint is financial motivation" what so I gotta buy you a house"- meaning where I live is a 50/50 split on marital property and funds. We own a home outright.
My theory was if he begins to see the financial impact, could a reverse course happen, or realign his expectations to wait. Time is a gift? Right? I realized I referred to it as "tying up loose ends".
I've been married to him for 13 years - when his mind is made up, it's made up. And his mind is MADE UP. I suspect it'll be soon, that he takes some action towards decoupling from a legal standpoint.
Also- I've tried:
1)Backing the heck off. Don't talk to him. Don't react to his behaviors of- not coming home as honored to care for his child, abruptly leaving to go to OW house. Usually I would make sarcastic comments, huff and puff
2)GAL- pouring into puzzles, kids, being upbeat, purposeful
Where things have stalled: communication - he's stone walled me. He pays me no mind, no words. No texts. Monday he was at least acknowledged me with a "hi". He looks so angry. I wish I knew what was going on in his brain?
Last night he slept on the couch. I feel bad putting him out of the bed- and wondering if that is backfiring? My love language is physical touch, closeness. Him being in there means I can't let go. Thoughts??
