W wanted to talk next steps but I let her stew for a few days. Then she came and said her piece. She viewed a house but can't afford the mortgage because of our childcare costs. She wants us to mediate to get a financial settlement. She seems in such a rush. Why accommodate her?
My solicitor is just waiting for me to send a text and then the divorce letter will go out. We could then mediate to negotiate finances and what happens with the kids. Where I live we would then be separated for 2 years before divorce is finalised (assuming we both agreed). I could also take a different approach and divorce her immediately based on unreasonable behaviour (making it her fault). But this might mean court and higher cost and drama.
The frustrating thing is she then cancelled a night out she had planned and instead put some energy into family stuff for the kids. Still just breadcrumbs but it shows she does respond to what I do and say.
