Quick update since it has been a while. I'm listening to D15 and W laugh from D's room. We seem to be putting one happy day after another together again. My bday and father's day cards from W are signed with "love" again. Both of us are putting in the work to rebuild a more secure-functioning relationship. We get a tune-up with our MC at least once per month and MC also reminds us about our progress. There are moments where flashes of the old relationship emerge, usually out of anger or stress. However, we both seem more interested in not letting things escalate, practicing better self-management, and applying new behaviors to work together to solve things.
I'm not posting to brag. I am posting to give others hope. Hope that if you do put in the effort, follow through on what MWD writes, listen to others in this community, etc. you can come back from some pretty hopeless situations if that is truly best for YOU.
It is wonderful to see W (and you) continuing to invest and commit to your new relationship. It sounds like the monthly tune-ups are solidifying and fostering a healthy partnership and healthy strategies for those inevitable disagreements that pop up.
I’d like to submit your story to the Another Divorce Busted! forum. If you’re interested please post a summary of your situation and I’ll get it published.
Have a great day.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
