So another conversation from W. She is now talking about letting her dad know her situation. Says she cant change her feelings. I ask how is she feeling and then she opens the flood gates... I wont list it all but some of the key points...
Still a lot of regrets about different aspects of our lives together or differents points where her life could have taken a different turn. About how she couldn't get through to me emotionally and that it wasn't her fault. Can't say she has a lot of regrets because we got our kids. Was never fully into me but more interested in our house project. The last few years together weren't fake. About a time I didn't say the right thing that hurt her. Regrets hurting me and bringing us to the situation we are in now. About how she is exhausted thinking about where to live but it will be as close as possible to our current home. About how she appreciates my patience in allowing her to live here.
I listened, mirrored, validated and didn't defend. Thanked her for the talk then went back to my house projects. The conflict in her is obvious. As are a few cracks in her emotional walls. When she talked about finding somewhere to live I told her she'd handle it fine. I know she would.
