Yeah we had to have the papers notarized and I'm assuming he sent them in. He can't even give me a final divorce date. I asked him for it at the UPS store and he asked why I wanted to know. Uh, isn't it important to know when I'm going to lose all my benefits? I haven't brought it back up because I don't want to talk about divorce stuff, and I'm estimating we still have about 5 months before it's final, so I'm going to give it some more time for him to hopefully change his mind and not need to give me that date. Same for the will and trust we need to get done to leave the house to each other in case something happens to either of us post divorce. He hasn't made a move on that either, I'm hoping it's because he sees us staying married. It benefits him as well after all, having the property go to him instead of my family.
I looked online and there's a court hearing set for August 19th I think. Not sure what for or if it can push the final date further out. Last time I got divorced we went to this "fast divorce" place and signed everything and 6 months later I was a free woman. It was all in the paperwork. He wasn't giving me anything and I just wanted to be away from him so that was just fine with me.
Home life is still going great. We do thoughtful things for each other and spend time together when we're not working or studying. No arguments, great sex, no fights over money now that I'm getting more hours at work and making more. I did run into a snag with them not giving me consistent hours though since I've only been working 8 hours a week due to a work injury 10 years ago. I'm going down to the union office tomorrow to file a grievance. They're required to give me at least 24 a week per the union agreement and to qualify for benefits. I hope it goes well. I need this job. I have no backup plan and I have to show him that I can take care of myself financially.
