I'm sorry for what you're going through. There are no plans for him to move out. We put it in the contract that the mortgage will be paid for 50/50. He couldn't afford his own place AND pay the mortgage, rent is way too high here. He's focused on learning two languages right now and plans to go to engineering school in Mexico. We're in San Diego, close to the border, so he would be coming back and forth if he decided to stay there for the week to be close to the school. He also still has his business here and he's going to have to keep working. Somehow he thought that I was going to hold him back from doing that, when I've never told him what to do. I have been nothing but supportive, even though I hesitate sometimes when he throws me curveballs like "I wanna move to Thailand or Japan", like who wouldn't have questions? Yesterday I told him that it sounds like he's going to have a grueling schedule and to let me know if he needed help with anything, that I'm here for him. He appreciated that.
Our relationship is still going great. He seemed sad and confused last Sunday. I asked him if everything was ok and he said, "yes, I guess." It's the same thing since I made my 180. He likes the new me but doesn't want to lead me on and is confused and conflicted. Part of him wants to stay and enjoy this, I'm sure, and the other wants to follow through with the divorce to not feel trapped again, even though there's no immediate plans to stop acting like a couple, even though he says we're not. I just need to give him time to realize that this is the new me and she's not going anywhere, and that seeing his positive response to her, makes it so much easier to keep up, so it's not like I'm doing something I cannot sustain.
