2nd Time Around (Thread #2)

[grok]

It has been longer than I thought since my last post! Things continue to go well between W and me. Our MC is excellent and, though we only have monthly check-ins, I feel our new (and better) marital habits are paying off.

Welcome back! And well done!

W communicates much more clearly about what she wants/needs. I continue to listen attentively and carefully to ascertain what W's needs are in the moment.

What occurs to me is advice on interacting on emotion-based communications. i.e. Interpreting through the filter - "I feel" -fill in the statement- "right now." Is this something that applies here?

I ask W how I can best support her as she continues to navigate menopause, and am mindful of what is/isn't working for us daily so that I continue to do more of what works and less of what doesn't work.

I see you are NOT fixing HER problems for her. Rather, offering support as she chooses...

My mother unexpectedly passed away.

Condolences. This is an ongoing fear of mine...

reminds me to maintain my boundaries, work on myself, continuously work on being attractive (in both actions and appearance), and to similarly work on being an expert on all things related to W.

YES! Things I see now that I lost focus on through the difficulties of mid-life ... and so did XW. Now? well... working on those first two.

you need both parties to trust each other and want to put in the work

That key starting point. If the WAS is willing though...

Future’s Calling - Apollo LTD

Hello human
Hello suffering
It's hard to reconcile what is
And the way it was meant to be
But something's about to givе
Standing on the brink
Call it a breakthrough
Call it a rescuе
Call it your destiny

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