Divorce papers were served and signed yesterday, after we came back from our friends' house. They had a little pool party for memorial day. We discussed what is going to happen moving forward. He will keep paying his half of the mortgage and house will be split 50/50 and he's giving me a sum of money to have for emergencies. Our mortgage is pretty low and my payment will only be maybe $300 more a month than what I've been paying. I don't understand why he said I wasn't contributing equally. He chose to make higher payments to pay it off faster, which is great, it just wasn't in my budget. Utilities aren't that much either. We have solar, barely use any gas or water. It's just the two of us. I'm actively looking for another job. He can live here indefinitely.
I asked what our relationship is going to be like now and it's pretty much going to stay the same. He said he noticed my changes but it's gotta take a lot longer than a month and a half for him to believe they're permanent. Fair enough. He also said that if I met someone else he wouldn't be mad unless he was an A-hole and that of course he would say something. He wants to go to school for engineering and he's not focused on meeting someone right now, but he would be extremely picky if he did look. I said I would be mad if he did. I just want to make it to where he doesn't have to because he finally believes that I've changed and he can fall back in love with me again. He said he will still be my best friend. I asked him if he wasn't feeling stressed anymore now that he saw that I wasn't going to fight him about the divorce and the papers were signed and he said he still is a little bit. Hopefully it's because he's still having doubts and he does have more than friends feelings for me. I told him he can talk to me anytime.
My goal is for him to stop this whole thing before it's finalized.
