Update: D’s wedding approaches with all the excitement, preparations and anticipation.
I have been participating and giving my support with those plans along with other family and friends. It is gong to be so much fun.
My health is good. Doing what I know I need to maintain my mental and physical well being. Still hiking, running, lifting weights, dancing and playing sports. Working with my dr and nutritionist to optimize my health management.
Another tragedy has struck close to home (I am not able to disclose details) and that is having an impact.
I am doing well with work and staying afloat financially. My financial advisor helped me make some good pension and investment moves that will be of benefit whether the M reconciles or not. Things are a very tight for me looking after myself, my son, my home and taking care of family needs as well.
I am supporting my aging parents with decisions and practical help with their needs.
She and I continue to negotiate. I am treating it as a business deal and keeping my emotions out of it while encountering significant expressions of emotion from her.
She has proposed that I keep the house (my hope) and she keep the pension and investments. This is a good deal for me. I am just not quite at the stage of being able to qualify for that size of a mortgage yet with my present income. Once we do agree on a deal that I can live with, I will have L look it over before I sign.
Interestingly of late she has said to me, “I didn’t realize I was leaving when I moved out. I though I was going for a week,” and “I have been defending you to my friends, saying you are a good man.”
