He keeps asking me why make the changes now? That it looks like I'm trying to manipulate him into staying with me. I said what would you do in my shoes? I didn't know what I know now. He told me things yesterday that he had never told me before. How my venting effected his work and his interactions with his helper. That he would go vent to her about me and make her not want to be around him. I had no clue. He would always tell me with a frustrated tone. If I had known it was pushing him away from me like this I would have stopped immediately. And I have stopped. I can only hope that I can make our time under the same roof so much more pleasant that he won't want to leave after all.
He says he's going to take money out of our equity to start a retirement fund for me and that I can still stay here. And he will take care of my health insurance, no idea for how long. Wouldn't that raise the payment on the house? The goal was to pay it off so we wouldn't have to worry about rent or mortgage. Most of my worries were about money and now it looks like he's got way more than plenty of it. If only I could just go back in time and do things differently. I know I brought my problems from my first marriage into this one. Classic bad move.
