He knows about the book. I told him I was reading it when he came back from his trip and had asked for sex the first time. He wanted to see it and I suggested he read it and he said ok. He never picked it up. I tried to reason with him on another occasion and told him everyone goes through what we're going through and that I was reading stories identical to ours in the DR book. He still wouldn't listen so I have since dropped it. He did say that he thought I was trying to manipulate him at one point. I just said I was changing for us (mistake, I know now.)
He's being really nice, thanking me for dinner and for cleaning the house today. I thanked him for keeping the table and counters clear because it made it easier for me to clean. I didn't ask him to do that recently, he just started doing it on his own after he told me he wanted out. He apologized for being messy before. He had told me a couple weeks ago that I didn't have to make dinner for him anymore but I said no, that he has enough on his plate and he needs to come home to a good meal. That way we can continue our new chats over dinner as well. It lightens the mood being able to talk to him normally about anything but our relationship.
He had told me (crying) that he felt neglected for a long time, even though I feel like I took care of him the best way I knew how after he repeatedly told me that he can take care of himself. I told him how that hurt my feelings because I did the opposite of neglect him in my book. He later apologized saying that was not the right word. I'm just trying my best to show him that I am on his side and I can be the loving wife he needs without being clingy.
