I’m glad you attended the party and had a good time. And yes, it is quite likely H is watching and noticing you. LRT, 180s, focusing on you, GAL, and such all help with:
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stopping the begging, pleading, pursuing, getting a grip on your own life and being more upbeat.
All of which you are doing.
Originally Posted by bkerchik
I feel like I’m withdrawing when I give short answers and be vague about things. Am I doing this right? Do I just need to be more positive when I reply. So more positive but short answers? If he brings up conversations do I engage or keep things short? I’m so confused.
You’re ok. It is confusing.
Originally Posted by bkerchik
I think the fact that he acts like everything is normal is making me the craziest. June is right around the corner and I feel like I’m running out of time. He hasn’t brought up meeting with any mediation lawyer and I don’t ask. Just trying to keep my chin up and make improvements on myself.
Having no answers, H’s acting like everything is normal, is bizarre. Of course you’ll feel confused.
What helps. Control.
That is controlling what you can control - you. Your thoughts, actions, and reactions. (Keeping your chin up and making improvements on yourself. For yourself.)
Let go what is in H’s grip. Time will tell his course.
Yes, June is just around the corner. However, you are not running out of time. You. Your time. Your course. Your life. Lots left!
True, your situation may change. Yet, you will be fine. Truthfully, likely better than fine.
H is so lost that he cannot realize what he is loosing, and he needed to feel that loss.
Continue to be kind and cordial with H. Short, direct, answers. Your positivity comes from within. Comes from your life. Your positive life. That will reflect in everything you do and say. It will be noticed in your behaviour at party or in a short reply to a question. Because you are doing it for you. For you. Because of you. (Not some attempt at winning him back.)
Sincere. Genuine. Honest. Loyal. Strength of character. Now, that is an interesting person.
Be who you want to be, because you want to be. Be kind and compassionate. The chip will fall as they will. You only can control your side of the street in all this. (((Hugs)))
Have faith.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
