I have talked to an L and asked specifically about how to protect myself and the kids. He said to keep taking screen shots of records and because it is martial debt it will all come out since everything is digital.
I’m trying to figure out the best way to stop doing things for him since D is still in the house and we have family meals occasionally. Also how to get him out of the bedroom for that same reason. Air mattress?
Yesterday was bizarre. H spent the morning doing chores around the house, which he rarely does anymore. We had plans to take the D’s and D(19)’s BF to dinner. But he managed to get a last minute ticket to a wine tasting with the singer, let’s call her (s) and her friends. I was proud of myself for not getting mad, just rolled off my back. But he would be finished before dinner and would meet us. I had my doubts. We ended up eating at the same place that his wine group was at after the tasting due to the waitlist at the place we wanted to go. The D’s chose to do that. I told him he didn’t need to eat with us, but after hanging out with the wine group for quite some time he did finally join us. Kind of. The four of us had a great time and he watched the basketball game. He was very drunk. D(19) offered to drive him home but he wouldn’t let her. So we left. We thought he was behind us but he didn’t come home for another 2 hours. The D’s were very concerned about him. I didn’t bad mouth him just kept quiet. My D(17) finally texted him and asked when he was going to be home. Apparently he’d been sitting in the garage trying to get in touch with (S) because he texted her back “(S) are you wake?” Then he edited it to say yes I’m home. She thought it was funny and showed me. I felt so bad for the D’s. I doubt he remembers. He also told me at dinner that he spent a large amount of money on wine. Not sure if he remembers that or not either or if I’ll ever see it. Do I bring it up?
I’m sorry I’m just complaining but I still feel so lost. Who is this man that I love? I had some friends that also ran into this group last night and they told me today it was like bizzaro world. I don’t know what they saw but hopefully I’m having lunch with one of them this week.
I a brighter note, I had an amazing day with D(19) yesterday shopping. We had an amazing time. A church with D(17) today. H has been less and less interested in church do we go without him and he makes excuses.
